October passed by....

November is on and I am trying to relate to the significance it has in my life....

This month to me is onset of winter. Season of shawls, cardigans and coffee.

The Christmas quarter.

Memories of Christmas holidays from school. Of a pair new of clothes. One for Chirstmas, another for New Year. Plum cakes and wine bottles. Later in years home made wines which is mixed beginning of November.

The excitement I still remember when mummy mentioned about preparing wine at home.

The everyday ingredients, the magical mixing and storing it.

Beginning of Christmas week, the most enriching Red wine was ready. I cannot forget the pride in suggesting it's home made and one must try it, was accomplishing.

In college November wasn't really a sign of anything. No memories attached except visiting a few places around the place.

I started my first serious job assignment towards end of this month. Good or bad, I'm yet to decide.

November has more substance then just what I can put in words. For now, let me rest it here.

Happy November to me...!!!

 

Is how we can offer love & care to Sunitha, I 'm trying....

Little things we fret about, which is alright. We are humans.

We've the right to sulk, complain & share unpleasantness. There are innumerable petty things we must overlook in life to make it easy and meaningful is what we are told, however when there is a problem it seems Gigantic and a mighty one of all.

Somebody who is crooked gets a much peaceful life. Someone who is so deceitful is always being loved and pampered. And, I compare my life with theirs, then Look up to ask (assuming God resides somewhere there):
Why you doing this?? Why have you always been like this? or Always unfair of your treatment, will I ever feel better than today? I often get advised or I remind myself to accomodate Events and People just the way they are.

It get's even more easier if you compare your life with others, and I do it.

Not that it makes me any happy to see someone else suffer, but surely makes me feel silly of the Gloom-list I had a mental note of.

Getting to the point:

I met Sunitha Muralidharan Nair few years ago while we were with HP and in few months she moved out for another better opportunity.

Thanks to our beliefs in Instant Messengers, we got in touch after a short gap and exchanged few pleasantries which grew to few emotional but girly conversations.

I moved out of Bangalore last year & for sometime had minimal internet interactions with many of you and around the same time I lost touch with Sunitha too.

Few days back I received her friend request on Facebook and was happy to see her...browsed through whatever pictures she had in those albums and I told myself, oh her Gorgeous eyes!!!

Cheers to the Coffee's you love Sunitha, I'm glad to have you back in my life.

Please spend few minutes of your busy schedules and see if you can believe what you watch:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?hl=en-GB&v=TP-J-EFe9eY

If you have watched the video and feel you could offer or get her any kind of financial support for all the future surgeries Dr Ashok B C (Manipal Hospital) and his team have planned for Sunitha, kindly come forward to do so, she has undergone 10 surgeries to get here.

She informed me of a surgery scheduled on the 20th Sept '12 news she received in the afternoon yesterday and looks forward to some amazing result, God bless...!!!

Kindly visit Facebook page: Rejuvenate - Sunitha Nair /Atinus, read through the "About" section to know what's happening and to get the Bank Transaction details. Post on the Fb Page or send a message if you think, it can make a difference.

Love you girl for you positive spirit! Amen.....

It is love alone that gives worth to all things....I say it's so true!

A friend of mine Shemeer and I were on our way back from Dubai to Sharjah late last evening. We noticed a girl walking by the roadside and looked at each other wondering if we must offer to drop her some place, if she wishes to accept help.

My friend Shemeer suddenly recollected of a recent conversation with a friend where we were talking about offering help to total strangers and sometimes how those strangers may perceive the help offered, especially when it’s late in the evening or actually at night.

If I were offered a drop late in the evening, the first question that arises in my mind is, she/ he are up to something by offering me help. Why take risk? Will I be in trouble etc?

We saw this girl and we passed her and I turned towards my right to actually get a glance of her. We got to the signal and were meant to cross the signal line and continue straight, instead Shemeer to my surprise headed for a U-turn and I was happy we were actually going to see what we could do.

That U-turn at the signal and another U-turn to get back to where we noticed her took us some 3-4 minutes to locate and get close to her.

As we were approaching her, we saw another car by then had stopped by her and she had this frightened look and she was nodding to indicate “No” and her steps automatically took her off the foot path and she was on the land adjacent to road.

We stopped right behind the other car and as I rolled the window glass down the other car disappeared from the scene in no seconds. She was frightened and sweating (could also be the humid weather here as she was already walking).

I asked her where she was going and if she needed a drop. “No” came the answer and I immediately asked do you know where to go? Also added saying, I’m like your sister and please feel fine. She admitted she is lost and upon asking said wants to reach a certain XYZ Supermarket and that place is a landmark to reach her sisters residence.

I knew the place and immediately informed her about it and suggested to get in the car and that she had passed that area and was heading to another location. Shemeer told her its fine and that she is safe. She got in and said thank you and started talking to someone over her cell phone (We would do that too, just to inform a near one that we are in a stranger’s car, but feels safe or will see what happens next)

We reached the supermarket in 5mins and when informed her of it, saw a sigh of relief on her face.

She said she is familiar with the place. Blessed us and stepped out, I offered my number to call me, incase she needs help after we are gone…she confirmed she is fine and we left. Through our rear view mirrors kept an eye to know where she was headed to and noticed she was crossing the road to head to an apartment building.

We continued and I was at my emotional best by then, couldn’t stop weeping.

Thinking of my family!

Thinking of many confident women, but were shattered at some point in time with scars which has changed their life’s.

Thinking, was there a chance of something going wrong just in case things would have been little different last evening with that girl?

There is a lot of risk involved (in our minds) while offering help to a total stranger at 11:45 pm anyplace in the world. People who offer help and don’t offer help are all amongst us.

If a man driving the car and is alone and offers, we would be skeptical to accept the help. Why, because we know the results from the past have scared us enough.

If a man driving the car and a woman with him in the car is a relief, however I would still be skeptical (it comes from my personal past experience) to accept help.

It’s a matter of trust, assurance, confidence, and the worldly approach towards woman, no matter which corner of earth…!!!

Imparts courage!

You watch a show of Satyamev Jayate and the emotions are etched in your mind!

When I'm thinking of the show I have the lady who smiles so well and beautifully, and there was this time in her life when her face was bitten by her husband, I can't forget the guy who was abused for more than a decade, and many others who participated; few victims, some co-victims, and then there is Aamir trying to help us understand these things exist and don't be surprised just because you haven't heard of it, or never bothered to know what it is.

Aamir tries to convey each message very clearly, translates word to word; English - Hindi and vice versa!

I started to think of people I may know who have experienced unfaithfulness in life.

The bad feeling or experience could be created by your ownself or given by parents, lovers, spouse, in-laws, friend's, colleagues etc.

Then I started to think of Sushma Nayak, an ex-colleague of mine from my Convergys days. I met this girl somewhere in between those 13-14 months before I moved to HP. It was Sushma's birthday on 25th May, I saw the update on Facebook to wish friends and visited her page instead of the regular leaving a message through the alert.

Read few updates on her page and I was completely out of my half-sleepy sense, as I was still on bed and it was my weekend. Searched through Google, another friend of mine was on-line and I mentioned this to her. She quickly found and sent me a link: "Sushma hanged herself to death on 10th Oct 2011".

Many on Sushma's friends list have no update of this tragic incident. I wonder what instigated Sushma to take a step to end it all, with one decision so wrong.

What had happened between Kiran, her husband and Sushma? What happened when they visited Kiran's native, Honnavar? What are her parents doing about it? Are her sister's following up on the case? I'm so clueless.

I will be in Bangalore in few months and would visit her family, meanwhile gathering as much information as I can through friends (ex-colleagues). I wish to meet the truth - Sushma!

Why are our life's so unimportant to us, why are we so unsure of who and what is right. Is the traditional method of obeying parents and marrying, the only solution to not regret a marriage - loved and self decided.

All through this I realise and regret my decisions about many things and also about those innocents - I had then thought it was right as I didn't want to bring into this earth souls who have no idea of what he was doing with someone he loved and married, only to take her through hell and for her to walk out of it!

Effects of the Episodes and Testimonials

Sunday's I'm in the Office during the relay time, as I live & work in UAE and the videos on You tube don't buffer, as it is blocked here. So I do the Torrent Download (some kind people are effort fully and on time uploading them).

I'm excited, tuned and attentive to each episode.

I didn't feel the stroke I felt watching the First and Second episode of Satyamev Jayate, while I was on the Third episode.

I wondered if the punches and the emotions are reducing so early in the planned life of the show - Satyamev Jayate!

That's when I realised Aamir or the shows head would have definitely decided on the most effective topic to start with and then we have many topics that are one time "watch and listen" topics for us now as we feel we are tired of it all..

Few that I could think of are: Government offices and the activities, Court's and never ending cases, Admission fees ( School donation's), Food adulteration through Suppliers, Sports Scams, Election Scams, Land Grabbing and related scams, NGO Scams, Ashram's and the real actions behind those walls, Corporate and Government Job Scams, Banning the Inter family marriages, Child marriages, Early motherhood etc.

Parliament on 22nd May 2012 cleared the decks for protecting children below the age of 18 from sexual abuse through voice vote.

Speedy trials & severe punishment to offenders ranging from 10 yrs to life imprisonment. The bill is gender-neutral, it is to protect children from sexual offences. The most important aspect of the bill is that the burden of proof will be on the accused and not on victim.

It is designed child-friendly and has provisions for in-camera proceedings. Helplines would be put in place for anybody to contact and let the authorities know of any sexual abuse.

Also, a woman officer not below the rank of inspector would handle any complaint.

Even if the intentions were malafide, harsh punishment would be meted out after checking the antecedents of the accused. Imposing of fines has been left to the courts, because there may be a few who would not be able to pay the penalty & there would be a few offenders who by virtue of being rich may keep on committing the offence repeatedly after paying the fine.

One step at a time and the change is possible. For this , I say, Amen.

The Storm respectfully known as Satyamev Jayate

Someone said we needed an Aamir Khan to point out the hideous activities.

His team & Aamir are relaying the Truth, week after week. Facts and figures, which we are surprised with, common don't act like you didn't know.

Who are the doers of these topics we discussed? They are amongst us!

How many of us will morally stop a cousin Brother or your own self who is about to get married and will have a wife with benefits like: 5 plus kgs of Gold, Car, Branded watch (that's the term used!), her families saving, some land transferred in her name (eventually yours). We would rather talk about his (make it our group gain) achievements proudly amongst our friends and fellas.

How many of us will suggest an Uncle/ Aunt or for that matter your Dad/ Mom when he is trying to gather all that money for Dowry to get the girls in your family married. We go enjoy the wedding and boast about it for years to come.

Many of us are aware & decide not to open mouth against our family members when they are happy about a child destruction and preparing the Daughter in Law for another try, while she is still mourning.

Who are these people and where are they hidden? Thye are our family members, extended families, cousins, colleagues, neighbours, people like you and me active on facebook, twitter, seen in social circuits etc.

No where but around us Watching the Show. Abusing Aamir mentally, as being loud will expose them with their thoughts. Concluding that's not how things work in the real world as Aamir comes from reel World.
Liking Aamir Khan's page (b'cause others are doing it). Thinking Aamir is equipped with Money and Power to host any thing he feels like.

But I know what I'm doing is right always, because that's what Mom, Dad, Grandparents have to say and they will never plan anything less for me.

You are not your Fathers boy if you go against his will in Marriage Market.

You are destroying your mothers dream if you don't involve her in your plans of making babies.

You are not an ideal sibling if you don't discuss how much money is coming into the family after your marriage and how your brother, brother in law et al. will be your Partner's.

This is a never ending flow of thought of mine, based on what I've heard, read and experienced.

May the force be with us to be the change and welcome the change.